I help highly sensitive women and empaths, who are adult children of alcoholic parents or are co dependent, to heal from narcissistic or emotional abuse finally trust and love themselves again.

If you have grown up in a “dysfunctional home”, if you have suffered from “emotional, verbal or physical abuse and or have been psychologically abused by a narcissistic parent or partner, then the information you gain here will help you claim your power and restore a sense of secure attachment.

If you are a ‘healer” looking to gain more insight into some of the “wounded adult child” you are working with; if you are a “lightworker” seeking more compassionate enquiry with the pain bodies of your clients, you will gain tremendous insights into why your clients feel as deeply wounded as they do.  Knowing “why” people are in such pain, will help you facilitate their now personal healing journey.

if you were a child of narcissistic parents, who is now suffering with codependency and attachment trauma patterns, you may be struggling to trust or love yourself after narcissistic abuse. Narcissists tend to attract people pleasers, or codependent personalities because as a co dependent you learnt that to keep yourself safe meant giving up your own needs and taking responsibility for everyone else needs.

Over time this becomes an unconscious pattern where you constantly seek outside approval and validation which in itself becomes an addiction to be needed so you become an easy target for narcissistic lovers, friends or bosses. 

It is not easy to learn how to love yourself after narcissistic abuse, but with the right education about how your nervous system is wired after trauma, an understanding of your attachment style and the co dependency recovery tools, it is possible. 

It is even possible to find love after codependency.

Sarah-Jane is an advanced parama Bodytalk practitioner who combines neuroplasty, energy medicine and somatic bodywork with the ancient wisdom traditions and TCM to get lasting results for her clients. She is also the creator of the Out of the Blues – how to heal from narcissistic abuse, emotional trauma and co-dependency 12 Week Program.

Trauma is not always in the big events as described in the ACE test you have just taken, but in the daily chronic unpredictable toxic stressors like emotional neglect, shame and the attachment wounds you formed when your needs were not met as a child.

You are probably here because you’ve tried everything… and after all this “work” you’ve done on yourself, you may be wondering:

“Why do I feel so empty inside, why am I so stuck, sick, exhausted, anxious or depressed?”

There’s something deeper holding you back from LOVING yourself and it’s the programming held in your nervous system.

The good news –





Your very early life experiences may leave you feeling unsafe in the world, lacking self-worth, or that you are ‘bad’ , unloveable or not ‘deserving’. These inner experiences are often hidden below your conscious awareness, yet they play out throughout your life until they are identified, repaired and reintegrated into your secure adult self. The “limiting” or more accurately “protective”  beliefs may come from lack of nurturance, being left alone to ‘cry it out’, lack of attunement, or more obvious neglect and abuse. The good news is you can change the faulty beliefs and attachment wound patterns to renew how you experience and trust your self, others and the world around us.

You will realize through these conscious transitions of the Trauma to Trust process, that there is love and connection here for you to embrace and embody. You are and always have been more than enough and that you are loveable.

Some of the tell tale signs that you are ready to get to the root of your pain:

  • depression and anxiety
  • insomnia 
  • chronic pain and digestive issues
  • self sabotaging your relationships
  • the inability to reach the level of success you want
  • mystery illness and addictions
  • toxic relationships and no boundaries
  • loss of joy and intimacy


Clear the brain fog & sustain a strong immune system with a healthier body and mind. Stay focused and aligned with your creativity & vision to change lives with your gifts and expertise. Achieve success and a lifestyle of abundance for you and your family without being burnt out, anxious and confused.


Having a crisis and need to talk to someone NOW? If you’re ready to get to the root of the trauma keeping you stuck in analysis paralysis and back to feeling focused, lit up, aligned with your purpose and excited, book a lifeline session.


Do you keep attracting abusive relationships even when you know better? Our connections are rooted in our adverse childhood experiences. Create secure attachments for the child parts running your adult life you and integrate the  toxic traumas in your system to attract the kind, loving, respectful, relationships you crave.


Sarah-Jane, a bush baby at heart, has been communicating with animals since her early childhood. Being able to get to the root of your animal friends’ health or behavioural problems is sometimes not as easy as a trip to the vet.

Sarah-Jane is a shining example of what vulnerability and inspiration can look like for women everywhere who are ready to use their voices to change their lives and their communities. Sarah-Jane is fast becoming recognized as a global thought leader in championing women’s freedom and the power of the tribe through who work with lions and other animal archetypes.

Katana Abbott, USA

CERTIFIED FINANCIAL PLANNER™, Practitioner, Life and Legacy Wealth Coach™, Author, Midlife Millionaires

I started working with SJ because everything in my life felt off – I was at a point where I was no longer happy living in one country and needed travel again and see other cultures and experience other countries. I started coaching with SJ because I had a lot of fear about what that would do for my business and my life. I was scared to disrupt what was working to expand my life. My experience with SJ was great. She held the space for me as I traveled to the UK and went back and forth to India and made the decision to move from South Africa to Asia. She helped me find clarity and understanding on what changes I needed to make to my business in order to create the life I wanted to create, which has been critical for the next phase of my journey and my life. SJ was the catalyst I needed for me to step into my dream life with courage and start really building a company I genuinely love. Highly recommend her to assist you in getting clarity and success in your life and biz1

Vangile Mcwkwa

Author, Speaker, Money Catalyst, Wealthy Money

My confidence has soared and I am full of energy and inspiration again! Before working with Sarah-Jane I was struggling to fill my practice, stuck in the feast or famine, frustrated. I lost the joy of why I got into the happiness and trauma release biz in the first place. I was going no where. Sarah-Jane is a combination of strong intuition, strong medicine and the delivery of solid, conscious business practices. She helped me heal from adrenal fatigue, and I got crystal clear on my dream client, and dug deep into my personal beliefs to realise my first online program and the foundation of my training. I have been invited to speak on radio and television, signing new clients and working less so I can spend more time renovating my dream house and living up to my brand. Thank you for getting me back on my purpose driven life and spreading happiness like a contagion around the world.

Anjana Lala

Happiness Institute



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