Get over the lie of not enough ness

To be yourself instead of the self that has imagined you into existence, requires that you accept willingly that what comes to you in the moment and in that moment find yourself aware of that moment because there is pain there.Use the pain that appears in the moment when life itself shows you where an unconscious pain has arrived and let go, pop the illusion, the lie that you are not enough.

Who’s story are you in that tells you you are not supposed to be the way you are. become aware of the relationship to the pain you are experiencing and start to see the suffering is because you have told life who you are and what you are supposed to be and the more you will begin to transcend the lie and the desperation to attempt to protect the sense of self that cannot be protected.

“They tried to bury you, not realizing you are a star seed  and an grow through any conditions user and more resilient than ever.”


I love this quote and the contrast of suceeding in every area of your life through challenging times or believing the lie that you are not enough and remain disempowered and in victim mode. Just looking in awe at how a dandelion always finds a way to grow in any conditions is a great reminder on how you can use your alchemy to find a way around resistance and obstacles by learning and applying resilience to get where you ant to go.Start by asking yourself how you want to feel and feel it so you can heal it, then the how will appear in the learning, Recognise nothing is permanent including pain. Learn from it and then be the leader you wish for as the change because you are open to receiving the gift in difficult times.

The choice is yours and finding an uplifting tribe who want to grow and rise up with you is yours. I have realized that finding the people who are uniting over something positive by connecting when time are challenging is key. Difficult times are great time to connect wth great people who like you want to contribute to something better.

Martin Luther King says something like:

“The road ahead will not always be smooth, there will be inevitable set back here and there and our dreams will sometimes be shattered. We must walk on in the days ahead with an audacious face about the future and want things to be better.Let us realize truth crushed the Earth will arise again.Stick to love and love whatever arises because love is the only way to a better world”

I spoke about how to find joy in dark times, a little lizard medicine

and now I would love to know what one small change you will take that will have a huge impact in your life and in the areas of life that matter most to you by changing your stories to uplifting ones and go do that.

Over the past few weeks I have been speaking a lot about how to create secure attachment and grow your child parts up through compassionate listening – by staying longer in the shadows and then doing the work consistently and I have been getting so many requests for deeper support and personal help , that I didn’t know how to stretch time more to get to you all. The one thing so many of you have in common is the desire for connection with like minded people on a mission to have more impact in the world with your gifts. I listened and decided the best way to come together was to invite you into 28 days of True Belonging for only $128. We have already begun but it is not too late to join us as all the trainings and journey work is your forever when ever you want to go back and revisit it.

Just book your space here and in doing so pay 50% of your investment forward to Highveld Horse care Unit in Joburg.

Of all the things I’ve learned, I have realized something really, really important:

You are not alone in your pain.

You are not alone in your self-loathing.

You are not alone in your fear of your own shadows.

I used to think that my internal struggle was some sort of vendetta that the Universe had against me. I thought my seething self-hatred was punishment for being rotten to the core. I thought that it was personal.

But what over 18 years of this work has taught me is that these feelings we struggle with aren’t personal at all. 

They are often times cultural, familial and intergeneration effects of unresolved trauma.
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They are the result of a culture that encourages us to deal with our feelings by eating, drinking, shopping, and social media scrolling. We are taught to be nice at all costs and to see our needs as weakness.

As a society, we do not know how to be present and loving with ourselves (or others) when we feel angry. We have not been taught how to be kind to ourselves when we see parts of ourselves that we don’t like. We have not been shown how to pay attention to our needs or ask for what we want.

We live in a world where self-love and self-acceptance are radical acts. 

And that is not the legacy I want to pass down to our daughters, granddaughters, nieces, and other loved little women.

It breaks my heart.

I think about the wounds that live between mothers and daughters and sisters and friends. And the intimacy, connection, and belonging we all so deeply crave but don’t know where to find. Watch this video on how to heal the mother wound – there is no better gift you can give yourself and you mother than this as Mothers day comes.

We struggle in our relationships because we don’t know how to communicate without sacrificing ourselves. We don’t know what to do when their shit pokes our shit. We don’t know how to let others be messy without putting up our dukes.

Let us learn to be human beings and use the pain to break the prison of being trapped jin the “I am not enough” and you will set yourself free to be who you cam here to be – YOU

We struggle to relate to others because we don’t know how to relate to ourselves. 

I’ve seen it, time and time again. In my own life, in my family of origin, in my friends, and in my students and clients.

It has become clear that something has to give. We can’t keep going like this.

I don’t pretend to have all the answers. I’m figuring this stuff out, just like you are.

But, what I do have is a willingness to share what I know.

I once had a therapist tell me (before she knew suicide attempts were something I had lived with since the age of 16) – that people with stories like mine jump off of bridges.

But I’m finally getting to a place where I feel genuine (rather than forced) gratitude for all of my traumatic experiences because they have forced me to learn how to be with myself and truly belong to myself. Every challenge, every betrayal, every health challenge has taught me how to feel without falling into the trap of wallowing. My experiences have shown me how to give myself my own loving care and come home to my heart.

And what a huge difference that has made in my world, both internally and externally.

The confidence that comes from knowing I have my own back, no matter what life throws my way, is unmatched by anything else in owning my sovereignty. 

I want to share that with you. And I want you to share it with your daughters, your granddaughters, your sisters, and your nieces.

Because it’s the only way that I can see that we will be able to heal the lie of enoughness in our culture, our relationships, ourselves.

You can join my mission and help your beloved people and animals by getting the support you need here

Love and appreciation for you saying yes to coming home


I want to live in a world where every single woman on the planet is in a compassionate, non-judgmental, and unconditionally loving relationship WITH HERSELF. Because, if our daughters, granddaughters, and nieces have any shot at loving themselves, it begins with us.

To do that, we must learn to be with ourselves through our darkest time. We must learn how to be our own best friends.

We must heal from the lie of not enoughness.

When we do that, not only do we heal ourselves, but we also heal the wounds the women who came before us. And, more importantly, we heal them in the women who will come after us.

In blazing the trail of radical self-acceptance, we will leave behind a legacy that we can all be proud of. A legacy where unconditional love and compassion are the basic foundation that your daughters, nieces, and other cherished little ones will build their lives upon.

My intention is to rally together the women who are brave enough to take that on. The women who are bold enough to say out loud that they are figuring it out, just like the rest of us. The women who are tenacious enough to let it all be a practice, not a perfect.

If you are one of those woment, join me over here.

Because I know that by learning to use the Trust Process first, we get in touch with our hearts compassionately and patiently by being present with what is moment by moment. This life transformational process builds a core bond of trust and confidence that deepens inter relationships in animals and people. This is the ancient wisdom of shamans, which can then develop and extend to all areas of life.

When our relationship shifts from trauma based fear or shut down to trust and truth telling, over-reactions are replaced with instinctual learning and deep cellular healing.

When the human mind changes to accommodate the opinions of animals a state of gratitude and co-operation can be shared we BE the change we want to see most in the world.

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